| The first chapter I have in my book
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| Is called
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| «Stand Up Straight with your Shoulders Back»
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| And it’s an injunction
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| To be combative
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| Not least to further your career let’s say
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| But also, to adopt
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| A stance of ready engagement with the world
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| And to reflect that in your posture
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| I kind of have an affinity for lobsters
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| When a lobster loses a fight
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| It kind of crunches down
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| So it looks smaller
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| When he wins the fight, he stretches out, looks bigger
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| And so, he’s signaling
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| To other lobsters
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| The tally of his victory
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| So, you think well so what
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| The lobster runs on serotonin
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| Neurochemical
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| And if the lobster loses the serotonin levels go down and if he wins the
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| serotonin levels go up
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| And when the serotonin levels go up
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| He stretches out
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| And he’s a confident lobster
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| And one of the
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| Consequences of that is if a lobster loses a battle
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| And you give ‘em
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| The equivalent of antidepressant
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| Then he stretches out and go fight again
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| Stand up straight
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| Stand up straight
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| Stand up straight
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| With your shoulders back
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| So, anti-depressants work on lobsters
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| And you think «Well, who cares?»
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| It’s like, no-no-no
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| You don’t get it
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| We diverged from lobsters from an evolutionary perspective
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| 350 million years ago
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| And it’s the same circuit
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| It’s absolutely unbelievable
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| And that shows you how deep inside you
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| How basic
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| How primordial that circuit is in you
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| That’s sizing other people up
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| And looking at where they fit
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| In the hierarchy
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| The idea of the hierarchy is at least 350 million years old
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| And so, I read that and I think
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| Well, so much for the idea that
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| Human hierarchies are a socio-cultural construct
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| It’s like no
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| That’s wrong
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| It’s not just a little bit wrong it’s unbelievably wrong
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| It is mindbogglingly wrong
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| Lobsters have hierarchies
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| That’s a third of a billion years ago
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| Okay, that’s not a social construction
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| It’s part of being itself
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| And if you only see a hierarchy as
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| Power
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| And tyranny
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| Then you’re looking at the world wrong
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| Stand up straight
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| Stand up straight
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| Stand up straight
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| With your shoulders back
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| Stand up straight
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| With your shoulders back
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| So, this basically says
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| I’m open to the world
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| But what it also says is
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| I can handle being open to the world
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| So, it signifies competence and confidence
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| The deepest Christian idea
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| Is that
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| You should accept the vulnerability of being
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| That’s the acceptance of the crucifixion
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| You’re at the X
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| Where all the suffering takes place
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| You’re going to whine about that?
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| And get resentful and bitter about it
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| Or you gonna say
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| Bring it on
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| I can handle it
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| No matter what it is
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| And the idea is that
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| If you can do that you will transcend the tragedy
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| And it’s like
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| Well, could that be true?
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| Well, you admire the courageous
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| So well, how courageous can you get?
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| That’s the question
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| How courageous can you get?
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| Well, you practice
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| Stand up straight
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| Stand up straight
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| Stand up straight
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| With your shoulders back
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| Stand up straight
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| With your shoulders back
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| If you want to present yourself to the world
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| In a manner that
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| Doesn’t disgrace you in some sense
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| You don’t want to disgrace yourself
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| Because the consequence of disgrace is emotional disregulation
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| More pain
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| Less positive emotion
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| And so, the way to present yourself is to stand up
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| Forthrightly
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| And to stretch out
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| You know, and to occupy some space
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| If you straighten up
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| And you present yourself in that manner then other people are more likely to
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| take you seriously
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| And that means they’ll start treating as if you’re a number one lobster
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| Instead of a number 10 lobster
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| Because one of the general rules of thumb about how to be successful
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| Is to
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| Confront things that frighten you forthrightly and with courage
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| And that’s kind of a universal strategy for success
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| And so that’s what the first chapter is about |