| My daughter was very ill
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| She had juvenile rheumatoid arthritis
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| And when she was between the ages of 14 and 16
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| It first destroyed her hip which had to be replaced
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| And then it destroyed the ankle on her other leg which had to be replaced
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| She walked around two years on broken legs
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| And she was taking massive doses of opiates
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| She could hardly stay awake
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| And she had this advanced autoimmune disease
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| Which produced all sorts of other symptoms that were just as bad as the joint
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| degeneration
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| But which are harder to describe
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| And so, it’s just bloody brutal
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| You know it is a test of your faith
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| When there’s almost nothing that’s more direct than a serious illness inflicted
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| upon an innocent child
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| But what to do in a situation like that
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| Because everyone is going to have a situation like that in some sense
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| You know you’ll be faced with illnesses and the people that you love
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| And one of the things you do when you’re overwhelmed by crisis
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| Is you shorten your time
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| You can’t think about next month
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| Maybe you can’t even bloody well think about next week or maybe not even
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| tomorrow
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| Because now is just so overwhelming that that’s all there is
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| And that’s what you do you cut your timeframe back until you can cope with it
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| And if it’s not the next week that you see how to get through that it’s the
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| next day
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| And if it’s not the next day then it’s the next hour
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| And if it’s not the next hour then it’s the next minute
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| And you know people are very-very-very tough
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| And it turns out
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| That if you face things you can put up with a lot more than you think you can
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| put up with
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| And you can do it without becoming corrupt
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| And she did recover because she figured out what was wrong with her
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| And then took the necessary steps to fix it which is nothing short of a miracle
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| You have to be alert when you’re suffering
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| You have to be alert to the beauty in life the unexpected beauty in life
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| There was this cat that lives across the street from us called Ginger
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| Cats really aren’t domesticated
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| Technically speaking they’re still wild animals
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| But they kind of like people
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| God only knows why but they do you know
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| And so Ginger will come wandering over and let you pet her
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| You know you have to look for those a little bit of sparkling crystal in the
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| darkness when things are bad
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| You have to look and see where things are still beautiful
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| You narrow your timeframe
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| You’d be grateful for what you have and that can get you through some very dark
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| times
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| And maybe even successfully if you’re lucky
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| But even if I’m successfully and maybe it’s only tragic and not absolute havoc
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| you can do that
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| You know in the worst situation you can make it only tragic and not hell
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| There’s nothing worse at a death bed than to see the people there fighting
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| The death is bad enough but you can take that as terrible as it is
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| And make it into something that’s absolutely unbearable
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| Maybe I think
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| This is sort of what I closed the book with
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| If we didn’t all attempt to make terrible things even worse than they are
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| Then maybe we could tolerate terrible things that we have to put up with in
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| order to exist
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| Maybe we can make the world into a better place
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| Knowing it’s what we should be doing and what we could be doing
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| Because we don’t have anything better to do
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| And that’s what the book is about
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| And that’s the end of 12 Rules for Life, thank you |